My college playlist
6 songs reflecting my Marquette experience
Music saved me.
It helped get me through my college years, both the highs and the lows.
A little over a year ago, I wrote an article reintroducing myself. As for many, the first few years of college were an adjustment. I tried and failed many things in an attempt of self-discovery. I can say I’ve succeeded. And while it’s still an ongoing process, I look back at who I was when I came to Marquette and cannot believe the progress I’ve made.
As my time here is coming to an end, I want to reflect on the lessons I’ve learned over these past few years and offer my advice…through song.
(Read to the end for a special playlist.)
1. Just stop your crying, have the time of your life
The above lyric comes from Harry’s first single following One Direction’s hiatus in 2015, which was released shortly before I came to Marquette.
This lyric was my motto throughout all of college.
It encapsulates both the beauty and hardships of being a college student.
College is supposed to be the time of your life. But what people don’t always tell you is that it will come with tears and uncertainty.
At the start of my undergrad when I felt lost and unhappy with my major — which I later switched, shocker — there were certainly lots of tears shed.
It’s not easy figuring out what you want to do for the rest of your life — in addition to meeting new people and developing relationships, plus adjusting to a new environment.
At times I got caught up in thinking too far ahead, instead of being present and enjoying the chapters of my life. Looking back, I’m glad I tried all the different experiences that I did.
A few of the things on my college bucket list were to study abroad and go on a service trip. I went on a summer study abroad trip to Antwerp, Belgium and spent my last spring break on a MAP Trip with the Little Sisters of the Poor in Cincinnati, Ohio.
These are by far some of the most rewarding experiences I’ve had here at Marquette and I wouldn’t trade them for the world.
Make sure to try all the things you want to do while you’re here.
2. Some nights you may get “No Sleep” — that’s OK
This one’s self-explanatory…
I cannot tell you the amount of nearly sleepless nights I experienced over the last few years.
Whether it was because of studying, group projects, concerts, or nights out with friends, those are some of the most precious moments I’ll hold onto when I look back on my time here.
Sometimes, the best moments are the small ones.
Taking late night custard runs to Kopps, unexpectedly going to Caffs, hitting up Maki Yaki’s happy hour, doing jumping jacks in Raynor…and the list goes on and on.
I’m not telling you to not sleep — please do, it’s very important — I’m telling you that it’s OK if once in a while you have a few spontaneous late nights. And they don’t even need to be at night, but rather, I simply suggest you make sure you allow yourself to have fun while you’re here too.
3. Be “Confident” in who you are and what you do
College grew my confidence more than I ever could have imagined.
Carlos Vara was one of the first artists I promoted as a Warner Music U College Rep on campus this past year, a job that changed everything for me.
I can easily say that working as a WMU College Rep was one of the most rewarding experiences during my time here.
As the only rep in Wisconsin, I had to work independently to create content and execute campuswide events regularly.
This not only pushed me outside my comfort zone, but also forced me to believe in my own capabilities.
So, be confident in yourself! Be proud of who you are, where you come from, and what you stand for. Capitalize on your unique talents and quirks, and don’t be ashamed of them.
You could surprise yourself as to how much you can accomplish if you simply believe in yourself and work hard. Know your limits, but also take risks and push your boundaries to see how much you can accomplish.
Also remember that your mindset makes all the difference in the world. If you can find a way to turn mistakes into learning opportunities and recognize the positive in situations, it can make all the difference.
4. Make “Big Plans” for yourself
There were certainly times when I forgot to appreciate the privilege of my education.
When these times presented themselves, I had to take a moment to step back and recognize how fortunte I was to be receiving a college education, because I fully recognize that not everyone has that opportunity and this is a blessing.
Take advantage of the opportunities available to you here and around the Milwaukee community as a Marquette student.
Never in a million years did I think I would be offered an internship in New York. But this summer, I worked as the Emerging Talent Associate for the International Department at Alternative Distribution Alliance.
That experience not only gave me more direction in my life, but also showcased that dreams can come to fruition if you’re passionate and persistent in what you do. Things will most likely not occur overnight and can take some time, but Marquette showed me that it’s up to you to create your future and that there’s no set location as to where you can start.
Being a student here gives you the tools you need to succeed out there.
As I handed in one of my final exams this past week, one of my professors said, “Remember, pursue your dreams — what you are passsionate about.”
That moment and those words will stick with me forever.
5. “I Never Knew” how much opportunity there was to grow
I’m well aware a lot can change in four years, but looking back at who I was before I came here and who I am now is outrageous.
Never in a million years did I expect to come across some of the most incredible people I’ve ever met. Or build relationships with other students, professors, and faculty in the way I did.
I acquired new interests and identities, and I’ve learned how to live with Jesuit values in all I do.
Aside from the people here, one aspect of college I am most grateful are the conversations I’ve had. Having my thoughts and ideas challenged has been a blessing.
Both in and out of the classroom, I’ve come across students and professors who have challenged the way I think and see the world.
I’ve met people from all across the globe who have shared their stories and backgrounds that continue to teach me to be open to other’s ideals and beliefs. It’s a reminder to showcase humility and empathy, because you never truly know what one has been through.
You can grow in any way you want here — intellectually, spiritually, and emotionally.
You just need to be willing to put in the effort.
6. “What I Want” you all to take from this
My final remarks:
Remember that college, just as life, can be a rollercoaster. Try things and fail things, but learn from each hardship, all while being patient with yourself as you attempt to figure things out.
You won’t always have the answers, so all you can do is try your best.
Remember that a letter grade does not define you, and that your mental health should be a priority. Make time for the things and people that matter to you. If it’s that important to you, you will figure it out.
People come in and out of your life for a reason, so find out what that is and hold onto those who are special.
Your mindset is everything, adjust it accordingly.
And once you’re out of the classroom, stay curious and never stop learning — there’s always something new to learn.
Overall, I’ve come to realize that your Marquette experience is what you make of it. For me, it’s helped shape my identity, ideals and overall outlook on life.
I’m so grateful for my time here and although it’s bittersweet that it has come to an end, I am very excited for what the future holds.
On a closing note…read the song titles in this playlist for my final song to Marquette.
